Im dating a virgin
Maybe he was shy or didn’t find it that easy to get a girlfriend until much later than everyone else.
Terrified he’ll embarrass himself, he avoids making any sexual advances at all.
Society views men as sex-crazed – willing, able and ready to have sex with anything that stands still for longer than a minute - but in reality, it’s easier for an older man to end up a virgin than you think.
Sometimes it’s deliberate: for religious or moral reasons, some men don’t believe in sex before marriage.
It’s like assuming you wanted to be a doctor for your whole life, but learning in med school that you actually hate it. Lest anyone fly off the handle, I’m not saying Effei should go screw a stranger at a bar.
But maybe having sex with the first man she falls in love with BEFORE she gets married would be a decent idea.
He seemed like a stand up guy and we flirted and talked a lot.
I needed to take things slow because of where I was in life—just out of a relationship and just having graduated college.
Maybe he was less sure of what to do, so didn’t push it.It’s a very common male psychology to exalt the untouched – to value the new car instead of the old car, etc. See, his change in tone with you made one thing very clear to me – he’s not enamored with YOU; he’s enamored with what you REPRESENT. The same guy who puts you on a pedestal for being a virgin might take you down a notch when you’re not. Get over the idea that men should value you for your education. But that psychology plays to the age-old double standard – men are studs, women are sluts. And that’s dangerous – as dangerous as a woman liking a guy because he’s rich. So while I’m tempted to tell you to dump this guy, I would urge you to continue take it slow and let him reveal his true intentions. It’s not that education doesn’t matter – it’s that it matters FAR LESS than the things that he DOESN’T possess himself. I don’t know why given who I am and the experiences I have had, but I have always found the attitude many men have about virgins to be a repulsive attitude. And sex is, by most accounts, a really fun pastime.Not only is it a great way to kill twenty minutes before you go to sleep, but it’s also an exhilarating bonding experience between two people….