Deal insecurities dating
Sometimes I didn’t realise men were interested in me and I ghosted them unintentionally when it turned out they were interested, so, I have done the ghosting myself. He began to slither away, but we would always get back together. So, I am making the effort to work on myself, mentally I feel great.
Thing is, everyone talking on this forum about being ghosted has probably done it themselves to others whether you realise it or not!!! It’s not just, “I met the greatest person and I’m so sad they weren’t into me.” Let emotion take a back seat, enjoy your life, take into consideration that you are still a catch, that you too have power (not just the person who decided to leave) and you should weigh up LOGISTICALLY whether they were actually, indeed, right for you. 3 weeks ago when I was in the hospital for a week after suffering my first seizures while at work, my ghost had had enough. I am finally sleeping and feeling rested allows me to make better decisions, I know I didn’t do anything wrong, so it’s his loss.
So a shoddy treatment of me from someone who claims to love me is not on. I am dealing with rejection, emotional abuse and co-dependancy. Totally not looking for anyone he walked up to me and I thought hey he’s cute let’s give it a go.
Keep pursuing YOUR passions, your dreams, honour what you want in your life and take pleasure in meeting those people who cross your path for however long they choose to, but also take pleasure in who YOU decide to hang out with. I don’t know if I can go so far to tell him I am ‘single’ and seeing others. We hit it off like I have never with anyone before. We ended up falling in love and spending plenty of time together. We joked around we laughed we genuinely enjoyed each other’s company.
Not until the holidays when I sent a greeting for the holidays.
He responded a day after thanking me for the simple gift I gave him. Then yesterday, I shoot him a message on facebook asking for a certain schedule of an event.
So think about the people you’ve ghosted and left in your trail of emotional destruction!! I just think you can’t expect too much from people, especially those you have just met, hooked up with a few weeks ago or have known even for a few months. I’ve known a couple of old people who were married for fifty years and they would look at each other and still wonder ‘Who the hell is this person? And it’s not always about the other person and what they’ve done to you. Well, my little ghost and I were ‘perfect’ the first 3 months of our 6 month relationship. his tone towards me was that since he has 3 kids, me being ill, I would be “just one more person to take care of. I am exercising more and getting fresh air, therefore am losing weight and ready to take on the world again.
’ People are complex, we have our sets of issues and our own lives and we can’t compare ourselves to others who appear to have perfect relationships when behind closed doors they are probably dealing with shit we don’t know about. We had a lot going on: First of all, we were LDR (the worst! I am working harder because I don’t have the constant worry on ‘is this going to be the day that he dumps me?
But i stop them from becoming full blown by reminding myself that if his reason for disappearing is because of his unwillingness to support me when i’m going through a stressful time, do i really want that kind of relationship?