Dating single tired of ugly people
Many of the struggles that surround singleness are my struggles too: tossing up between living on my own (and being lonely and possibly broke) or living with flatmates (and regularly having to find and get used to new ones); turning up to things on my own all the time; feeling the unvoiced wonderings of friends, who think I’m too fussy, or gay, or weird; feeling surprised and disappointed that I’m not married by now, and wondering what’s wrong with me. However, I remain convinced that God’s word in the Bible is true, and I am determined to cling to it.
My life, my struggles, my circumstances have changed over the years, but God has not. So this is a plea to my dear Christian sisters who are single but would love to be married: don’t stop trusting God. Don’t let Satan get to you with his subtle lies, which come from all directions.
I live in Sydney’s east with my two flatmates and my cat.
(The crazy-cat-lady litmus test is that you know you’ve become one and you don’t care.) I’m in my late thirties.
You were valuable the minute God wrote your days in his book (Ps 1-16), and nothing that happens to you in this life can change that.
This is probably the lie that I wrestle with the most, mentally.
Or another friend, who cannot tell me a single positive thing about herself but who is often quite thoughtfully supportive of her friends and family.The older I get, the easier it is to believe this lie (which is closely related to the first). But the longer I remain unchosen (and that’s certainly how it feels), the easier it is to think that God’s power can’t reach this part of my life.When I was younger, thinner and less cynical, it was easy to imagine that God would send a husband along for me. But I need to remember that in fact I am not unchosen. And at the risk of stating the obvious, if God can create the universe just by speaking (Genesis 1); if he can cause Pharaoh to let the Israelites go (Exodus 12); if he can raise Jesus Christ from the dead (Luke 24); if he can use the purposes of evil men for his good purposes (Acts -24); if he can give us new life and change us from people who hate him to people who want to serve him (1 Peter 1); if he can—well, do I need to list every event in the Bible?I could just get used to my husband, and that would be it.I could also afford to buy property, so I wouldn’t have to worry about when or if my landlord might ask me to leave. But this particular lie is one of those clever half-truths, where the truth makes it harder to see the lie.
You cannot be made valuable, because you already are valuable.