Boundaries for dating
Watch how quickly their personality switches or they disappear when they’re expected to deliver.Don’t waste your life waiting for them to become the Person They Were In The Beginning.It’s your prerogative to have casual sex but you should only be doing so if it’s what you actually want and are not building up feelings.You cannot work your way up from booty call to girlfriend.Cloud and Townsend also discuss sexual boundaries, conflict, risk, romance, unresolved family problems and their impact on dating relationships, and other essential topics.“Dating right side up,” an exhortation to fit our dating life into our spiritual life (not vice versa) was another highlight for me.
Over the past few years I have written about boundaries, your personal limits of what you will and won’t put up with, many times.The authors remind the readers that we ought to “bring dating before God and ask for his guidance.After all, the One who designed emotional connections knows best how they are best conducted, in a way that is satisfying for us and glorifying to him.” They also pose the all-important question young adults need to honestly ask themselves: “Does [the dating relationship] bring you closer to God, or push you further away?” An additional source of encouragement to me, personally, was that this book wasn’t written by twenty-two year olds, and it wasn’t written by authors who married at twenty two either. Dating is simply different in post-college adulthood, and, overall, the topics addressed in are geared toward adults, not the high school and college demographic. Cloud and Townsend married their wives well into their thirties and, therefore, had to navigate dating throughout their twenties and early thirties themselves.Their personal experience of being “older” Christian singles brings a perspective sorely needed to the Dating & Marriage section of our local Christian bookstores.
Even though love is not there from the outset, there is no excuse for someone not to treat you with care, trust, and respect. By the same token, if loving them means you can’t love you, always choose you.