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Then tell me job hunting doesn’t work because you’re a minority, or short, or whatever. All of those things make a difference in terms of whether you’ll get the job — or the date.You can’t expect to screw up everything else and then out-compete a better looking or taller or otherwise more attractive guy.Of COURSE everything else being equal, a more attractive guy will do better than a less attractive guy in a superficial environment where the picture is the only thing you see of the other person. But that certainly does NOT prove that online dating doesn’t work.It would be akin to saying that everything else being equal, the taller basketball player will win, so thus, no one can ever get good at basketball unless they’re tall. The fact is, looks DO matter, especially in an environment where the other party can’t initially see your wit, humor, confidence, etc.A lot of guys tell me the same thing — that they’ve run experiments where they put out two profiles with the same content, only one of them used their pictures and one of them used a picture of some random good looking guy.Rather predictably, the better looking guy got better results. Their conclusion was that online dating didn’t work unless they were good looking or tall or white or whatever factor they deemed important. Here’s the thing, though — from a critical thinking perspective, they haven’t really proven ANYTHING by that experiment except that attractive guys are more attractive than less attractive guys. I used to get really down about my looks, but now I OWN IT. I’m thankful for the way that I look because it has made the awesome person I am today. Being unique instead of looking like everyone else. My aunt once used the word “plain” to describe me (Yeah, it hurt at the time, I won’t lie). In fact, I’d venture to say that average looks are than perfect-ten looks. Some of the most bad-ass women in history weren’t congenitally good-looking: Frida Khalo, Diana Vreeland, Georgia O’Keeffe…I could go on for hours.
You don’t have to figure out how to let guys down easy. that attracts women) into the mix, the tables start to turn.You start to realize that game is one of the big equalizers if you don’t have other inherent advantages (fame, fortune, looks). Less time taking selfies means more time having fun! No one blowing up your phone at early hours or sharing your bed and stealing those covers. You know the pretty people would be sacrificed first if you were living in the aztec culture. The truth is- we women are all beautiful in our own way.
I stopped by a local dating advice forum the other day and a bunch of guys were debating whether online dating was useful if you weren’t tall, good looking, white, etc.